IN THE MIDST

It is amazing how life’s experiences can teach us invaluable lessons. Wisdom gives insight and lends itself to proper timing as it relates to how we should respond in any circumstance. How we respond speaks volumes about who we are, how we think, and what is in our hearts. One of my favorite scriptures that I walk by minute by minute is,“Know this my beloved brothers, But let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. (James 1:19 ESV ). I have learned that every comment doesn’t need to be dignified with a response. Silence is an indicator of strength and can be effective in the correct circumstance. Then there are times when a topic or issue should be candidly discussed and called to the carpet respectfully.

We are all faced daily with the choice of how we will respond to people, comments, situation, and ideas. We must recognize that we are not responsible nor do we have power over anyone’s actions. However, we must be accountable for how we behave and our response to a situation. God will equip you with the tools that you need to make wise decisions. It is impossible to do this in our own strength because the flesh will always disregard God’s way. Our flesh wants to be in the forefront and before you realize it you have said too much, spoken too soon, and reacted to quickly. At this point, the damage has been done and it’s too late to recant.

Social Media is also a contributing factor to how we respond. Social media era is both a blessing and a curse in society. It is a wonderful platform to stay abreast of what is happening in the world around us. Unfortunately, we get into overload because we are continuously bombarded with images, information, and opinions. It can be quite overwhelming and exhausting! The trending topics most times deal with an individual being reckless by making a controversial comment out of ignorance or to garner attention. There is something unfolding at every turn of the day. It is important to have peace in your life because it reflects on your wellbeing. God wants to bring you to a place where peace abounds. Give yourself permission to disconnect from social media throughout the day to have moments of peace. You don’t need permission to unsubscribe, unfollow and sever ties with people or personas that don’t add value to your life. Make a decision today as to how you will positively respond to negative situations. Be intentional with all that you do because you are a Kingdom representative.

Peace Be Unto You,

KBKORNER

Choose Wisely

Last week spoke on broken relationships and it made me reflect on the broken relationships we have as women. Have you ever wondered how men can befriend someone that has wronged them but for women that very concept is hard to comprehend? If we dislike someone we may bring that dislike to the grave, even if we forget the initial reason for the dislike. We hold on to grudges with our dear life no matter if the grudge is falsified or not.  We don’t care if we lose relationships with family, friends, or loved ones, our unforgiveness can be ruthless. And God forbid the grudge is over a man, we carry resentment, bitterness, and hurt as if that woman ripped out your heart with her bare hands. I understand that in today’s society we encourage hate more than love and instead of calling ourselves unforgiving we use other terms like “savage” to put a cool term to our dysfunction.

But what about this…

1 John 4:20

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother or sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.

The truth is that hate does not come from God but from the enemy. God is forgiving, therefore, to be unforgiving is just another trick from the enemy. I’m unsure how as women we fall victim to these traps over and over with no form of repentance, but I do believe with God all things are possible. If we want to let God work within us to fulfill our full purpose there is no room for hate or unforgiveness. 

Why hold yourself back because of your feelings towards someone else? That’s toxic. Does that mean that everyone must be our friend and in our inner circle? The answer is simply no. But don’t give them the power to dim your light because you have that hate lingering inside you. Lead with love even if it’s not receptive. God is looking at your heart and your intentions.

Unforgiveness is a burden, envy is a sin, and resentment is detrimental. But God is love. 

Choose wisely.

K.T Jacks ❤

 

 

 

BROKEN SITUATIONS

When you find yourself giving God a helping hand a disaster is guaranteed. The problem with playing with a small fire is that it may seem harmless because it can be controlled. However, what seems containable and non-threatening can quickly escalate to an explosive blaze of destruction without warning. Ravaging everything in the path leaving charred remains of what used to be. Can you imagine gazing at this destruction it would be tough and heartbreaking? Often times there isn’t much that is salvageable with a fire. The question at this point would be, Where do you go from here?’’

The story of Sarah (wife), Abraham(husband), and Hagar(servant/sidechick) in the Bible could be a made for tv movie. There is scandal, drama, and recovery all in one story. God gave Abraham a promise that He will give him a son and Sarah in her old age will conceive. Sarah and Abraham have a hard time believing they would have a child in their old age. I will admit it does seem laughable when you think about it. The situation gets messy because Sarah had this bad idea that she presented to Abraham, ”The Lord has prevented me, Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her Abraham agreed with Sarah’s proposal.”(Genesis 16:2)Reading this story sounds like a daytime talk show I would name,”I gave my Husband away because God was moving to slow.” There are so many things wrong with this story, but the theme that resonates with me is the disbelief that Abraham and Sarah share. This plan wasn’t the plan of the Enemy it was Sarah’s.

Abraham agreed with Sarah’s plan and connected sexually with Hagar. Although this was a common practice at that time for women in that culture who were barren, it WAS NOT the instruction of God. I want to emphasize that just because everybody else is living life a certain way that doesn’t apply to you. Sarah moved before God in her flesh. The influence she had on Abraham to move mindlessly with the plan and not object only to make her happy wasn’t the best decision.  Our ideas and plans can complicate the plans of God. God’s promise won’t be recanted because we mess up. Fast forward this story, Hagar has a son, Sarah is resentful, and Abraham has to fix it. Sarah was reminded of this bad idea by having to see the child, Ishmael. Sarah and Abraham did have a son Isaac, but trying to coexist with Hagar proved to be difficult and so she (Hagar) left.

Many times we will have to wait on God. It may be days or even years before a promise manifests. It is impossible for God to lie, He doesn’t need our backing, but he needs us to increase our capacity to persevere in the midst of uncertainty. When God speaks,” a closed womb will open and give birth to many nations.”God’s promises override age, situational background, or physical attributes. God is still in the business of working miracles!

The Lord kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he promised. She became pregnant and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age. (Gen.21:1-2) 

Be Blessed,

KBKORNER ❤

Setting the Tone….

Most importantly Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers, soon to be mothers, and even single fathers. It’s is very important to celebrate motherhood and being fruitful and obedient. Many times we underestimate or undermine the power of a mother. But liked we learned last week a mothers job is endless. On top of doing everything to build and uphold our household, we must not forget that we set the tone for our homes and future homes to come.

2 Timothy 1:5

I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.

In this verse, we learn that the sincere faith that Timothy carried was passed down from his mother and grandmother. What an incredible gift to inherit. Faith builds a relationship with God. Faith will get you places that no man can see. Moreover, if faith can be passed down…what else can?

Exodus 34:6-7

And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness,  maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.”

Just like we can pass down faith. We can pass down love, hate, and generational curses. We can punish our children to come just by what we implant in the children that we have now.

As mothers, we don’t know the power we hold or at least I didn’t. I was a teenage mother I learned from observation. I started to notice a correlation between myself and my daughter. For example, when I started to want more in life her dreams and aspirations grew. When I started going back to school, she looked up what colleges she would be interested in. When I started to increase my faith, she wanted to learn more about God. When I got baptized that became a goal for her. Therefore I was already setting a tone for her I just didn’t know it.

Hence, we should never be negative to our children. Behavior is learned and passed down. It’s so easy to speak death to other people and their situations without even noticing it. Things that are hateful, unreceptive, and unconstructive shouldn’t be spoken at all. Putting them down until you have a whole generation full of resentment ready to pass that down is terrifying.

Probers 12:18

The words of the reckless pierce like swords,
    but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

The power of being a mother is that we have the opportunity to change generational curses. Pouring life into the ones we love. There is power in Jesus, faith, and prayer.

Be the mother that should be celebrated. Be the daughter that is receptive to love and a child of God willing to accept and learn His word.

 

K.T Jacks ❤

CHIEF MOM OFFICER

As we prepare to celebrate Mother’s Day this week, I reflect on being a mother and how it has given me great joy. There is never a dull moment in my house with having two busy kids and a hubby. The lists of things to do and places to go is never-ending. Being a parent is a selfless job that is tougher than being in the workforce. There are so many components to motherhood that we multitask effortlessly. However, the job we have is not easy at all but, we have been gifted with the ability to make it appear that way. I want to name a just a few things we do with our special touch. This job description may vary for each family and each mom.

Chief Mom Officer-oversee the day to day operations in the home. This includes packing lunch boxes, signing papers for school, combing hair, packing bookbags, and reviewing what is on the agenda for the day for the house.

Uber Driver- this one is right to the point. You make sure everyone gets to where they need to be on time.

Chef-  this is a major deal meal planning, cooking, and grocery shopping. Your effort here is appreciated because you have to keep things exciting by keeping it fresh with new recipes.

Nurse-you take care of everyone in the house. You are always on duty to help soothe upset stomachs, fevers and nagging coughs with love and medicine. Your shift is 24/7 early morning or late night it doesn’t matter because you are ready. This is pretty impressive because we still manage to be composed through it all.

Cheerleader-The biggest supporter in the house. We encourage and empower everyone that is connected to us because want to see the people we love win.

Prayer Warrior-we know where our strength lies as women and that is in God. It is impossible to do all these things without Him. He gives us peace in the chaos and refuels our faith in motherhood.

Life Coach-you are an advisor, mentor, and counselor. Although every situation is different you know what to say and when you have no words your presence is priceless.

This is a snapshot of the activities included, but not limited to our role as a mother.

Truthfully speaking, it can be overwhelming to think of all the roles that we have. Life can feel like it is an unending road of busyness. I still thank God for all He has done, what He is doing, and what He will do. Be comforted in knowing that If you are still standing then He is still keeping you! Moment by moment with every passing minute the Lord is restoring you. To all the mothers and mother figures treasure every kiss, hug, and “I love you mommy”. You are amazing, strong, and invaluable. Your worth and capabilities are described in Proverbs 31: 10-31.

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting: but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”(verse 30).

Happy Mother’s Day,

KBKORNER

 

 

 

 

 

 

To The Parents…Past, Present, & Future

I tend to get a lot of calls from friends wanting advice on what they should do with their children. I get calls regarding milk, diapers, medicine, and anything else under the sun. I enjoy receiving the phone calls because children aren’t easy to raise and as parents, we just “want to get it right.” If that’s even possible at all.  If I can help in any way, I try my best to. But because I am a mother of three people tend to think I have parenting perfected but that is simply not true. The only thing that I have perfected is changing diapers at a high speed.

But seriously…..

the best advice that I can give is to have Faith!

We can read all the parenting books made to man and still become oblivious to our children’s needs. We can try to become our children best friend and still fail them as a parent. We can hand our children the world but still abandon them when they need us the most. But we are human.

Faith in the Lord will take away the stress of raising children because we know that we have help. We know that the Lord can follow them when we can’t. We know that the Lord can listen to their cries when we are nowhere around them. And as parents, we will constantly fall short of perfection. Therefore, teach your children the Lord so they can understand that concept as well.

This world is crazy and very cruel at times but at least with the Lord we know that we have someone on our side.

 

K.T Jacks ❤

Proverbs 22:6

Start children off on the way they should go,
    and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Pillar of Strength

Elegant.Nurturer.Teacher. Life-giver.Friend.Comforter.Influencer.This for me is the essence of what being a mother embodies. Being a mother is the most rewarding and exhausting job on earth. What is absolutely amazing about this role is our influence molds the life of our children and generations to come. I remember the day that my daughter was born so vividly.There I was clueless about what to expect, but I welcomed all that this beautiful baby girl would teach me. Holding her in my arms surrounded by pillars of strength that have supported me through life.The pillars of strength are the women in my village who have poured into my life from a girl into womanhood.It is in that moment that my cup was positioned to pour into my daughter.What I realize as a mom is it takes all of us, hands joined together forming a circle to cover you.

I understand I am her role model and I am teaching her the “how to’s” in life.In the same breath, she is teaching me about my myself.I am learning that I must always be open-minded, patient, loving, and did I say patient already!Unfortunately, there isn’t a manual on how to discuss all of the issues under the sun, but there is an open and honest dialogue that we share. My daughter has a heart for helping people and it is captivating to see it in action.The tenacity to never give up and to barrel her way through the opposition is reassuring.These positive attributes that I see in you will follow you along your life path if you hold fast to them.

When I see you I see endless opportunities.I am so glad you chose me to be your mother and I am proud to have you as my daughter.My prayer is that wisdom nuggets are being imparted to you.Even though sometimes it may seem that you aren’t listening, but you are being attentive.This is my prayer not only for my daughter but for all the little girls and young ladies.They need to know and hear that they are beautiful and regal.Anyone that attempts to convince you otherwise is trying to minimize your,”Shine”.

Be Confident –The world’s views and standards doesn’t apply to you.No matter how standards change.Stand on the word of God and don’t ever let go of your faith!You may have insecurities about yourself, but there is no void God can’t fill.Speak to that place and watch God’s power work.He will never fail you.There is no need to compete or compare yourself to other women because God designed your path just for you.It will not fit anyone else.Encourage other women and uplift them.

Be Bold-To stand out is an outstanding stance to take at the present time. Be true to yourself because trying to be someone else will be a struggle for you. Being genuine will always be heartfelt.Everyone will not understand you,  but that’s ok.Be at peace with how God made you.

Be MissionMinded-Love yourself because you are enough.Always walk in integrity never waver on what God says is right. Volunteer your time and resources to help others that are in need. Staying connected by helping others will keep you in a posture of humility and gratefulness.This is what we as believers are called to do.

 

“Listen to advice and accept discipline and at the end, you will be counted among the wise.”(Prov.19:20).

 I am dedicating this post to my little girl who is fearless,strong, and beautiful!<3

Until next time,

KBKORNER