This is a very exciting time of the year for people to spend time with their sweetheart. For me, Valentine’s Day is also my middle son Amir’s birthday! Of course, I would have loved to spend the day getting pampered by my husband, but I had to make sure my son feels as special on his day as he is to me. In my household, we take birthdays very seriously so Valentines meant that my Prince received everything he wanted and more. However, towards the end of the day, it became a hassle. Amir wanted to go home and play with his toys but I kept thinking of things we could do to make the most of his birthday. He already had his party with cake and ice cream, spent time with his friends, so it isn’t that he wanted more…. more so that I did. My husband kept asking what did I want to do later that night but all I could think about is Amir. So actually spending time with my husband on sweethearts day never registered in my head and this is because I didn’t balance it correctly.
Being a wife and a mother can be hard to juggle. If too much attention is given to your children your husband starts to feel alone and vice versa. Why couldn’t I have gone home called a babysitter and went out with my husband? Would that have been too much to ask?
Too often we get caught up on what we feel is right instead of what is actually the right thing to do. I should have shown my son the best birthday and showed my husband that on this sweethearts day he is my ultimate Valentine, choosing my time wisely and balancing my scale evenly.
Remember show endless love and prayer works!
Ephesians 5:15
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,
I think it shows how much you care for your babies, which is incredible. Plus, if you’re so used to your days revolving around the little people, I guess it can get kind of hard to look toward fun for yourself – that would obviously include your husband. I, personally, never get alone time so it might be a different story for me, lol But I love my babies so dearly, it can’t be denied. So don’t feel bad for wanting alone time 🙂
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Love your comment Trish but you have to have Personal Time or you will kinda lose yourself. Right?.
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When you have kids, its fun to incorporate them into your Valentines plans. It makes them feel special too.
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I love incorporating my daughter into my valentines day plans! Such a sweet time of the year!
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This was very sweet and to the point. I love Valentine’s day, because I think it is just fun, but I think it is important to show love all year.
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I agree with you. Everyday should be like Valentines and thank you.
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Balancing is essential. Always make sure your spouse is feeling special as well. Men hold things in and don’t express themselves as much as women but nevertheless they have feelings too. Love how u have grown and matured into a young lady, mother, and wife. Stay humble and never lean to your own understanding for answers. Let God guide you down every path you take. Love you!
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Thank you so much && Love you more. I will continue to let God guide my hands…I pray over them every time I write. Thank you for the man input I always need that!
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I love that even with kids yoi make Valentines happen! This is so sweet. Love the verse too!
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Thank you and me too! Always have to make the babies feel special.
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I include my doggie into our Valentine’s day plans 🙂 Its so much fun!
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I totally get this,. Especially where you said that “Too often we get caught up on what we feel is right instead of what is actually the right thing to do.” It’s hard to stop doing that, but as one person already commented, finding a balance is essential!
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Balancing both your roles as mother and a wife is not easy especially since those roles both demand time and effort. I think we try our best it’s just that sometimes we tend to overthink and go beyond what we should do.
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Yes! Overthinking gets me every time!
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In Finland we celebrate Friendship Day instead of Valentines Day and all the family and friends and loved ones are included – I think I prefer this concept because it includes everyone instead of making it all about a certain type of love.
Katja xxx
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endless love and prayers works! is absolutely true!
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Balancing kids and spouse can be tricky even on the best of days. It’s hard when you have competing interests. You sound like you have the right idea about what to do in the future.
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Thank you and I Always love to hear men input!
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There’s something healing in seeing the ways we make mistakes and recognizing them for what they are. Take a day this week to make it up to your husband, and let him you that you recognize what happened. I’m sure he’ll appreciate the acknowledgment – and hey, better late than never.
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Great idea. We went out and had a blast. I’m so lucky to have an understanding husband. – But your blog page is amazing and I’m an inspiring author so great to see your website. I would love feedback.
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I know I struggle to find a balance and it’s refereshing to know that I am not the only one. Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you for reading! I believe everyone does so you are def. not alone. 🙂
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Valentines day can be a fun and relaxing day for all of the family. Great way to incorporate the kids.
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It sounds like you are finding the right balance in your life. We dont celebrate valentines day, it is nice to see some people still do.
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Putting kids into your Valentines plans is so much fun. I love to celebrate as an entire family.
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Too often we get caught up on what we feel is right instead of what is actually the right thing to do was the best statement! I wish would make this into a bumper sticker of something. Great post! Thank you for making it. http://www.jimburgoon.org
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I heard this so many times already from friends that have babies or kids. They always feel guilty no matter where they are. Do whatever feels right and make sure the time you spend with your loved one is quality time and you are fully focused on it.
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It is true that being a wife and a mom is hard to juggle at times but we must learn how to balance it. I’m sure Amir feels really special on his birthday and he feels how much you love him. You are such a great mom and wife.
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Thank you ❤
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I love celebrating Valentines with my kids even if on our Travelling I always want with my kids
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I can you care deeply for both your husband and child, of which, well you should! understandably, you wanted to keep both happy by making the 14th s special day for different reasons! and yes I do agree with you, planning goes a long way! but you’re doing a great job. its not easy being a mum on valentines day, its even harder when you have a son born on that day!
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Thank you for understanding and you are right planning goes a long way. I must rem that ❤
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