Last week spoke on broken relationships and it made me reflect on the broken relationships we have as women. Have you ever wondered how men can befriend someone that has wronged them but for women that very concept is hard to comprehend? If we dislike someone we may bring that dislike to the grave, even if we forget the initial reason for the dislike. We hold on to grudges with our dear life no matter if the grudge is falsified or not. We don’t care if we lose relationships with family, friends, or loved ones, our unforgiveness can be ruthless. And God forbid the grudge is over a man, we carry resentment, bitterness, and hurt as if that woman ripped out your heart with her bare hands. I understand that in today’s society we encourage hate more than love and instead of calling ourselves unforgiving we use other terms like “savage” to put a cool term to our dysfunction.
But what about this…
1 John 4:20
Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother or sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
The truth is that hate does not come from God but from the enemy. God is forgiving, therefore, to be unforgiving is just another trick from the enemy. I’m unsure how as women we fall victim to these traps over and over with no form of repentance, but I do believe with God all things are possible. If we want to let God work within us to fulfill our full purpose there is no room for hate or unforgiveness.
Why hold yourself back because of your feelings towards someone else? That’s toxic. Does that mean that everyone must be our friend and in our inner circle? The answer is simply no. But don’t give them the power to dim your light because you have that hate lingering inside you. Lead with love even if it’s not receptive. God is looking at your heart and your intentions.
Unforgiveness is a burden, envy is a sin, and resentment is detrimental. But God is love.
K.T Jacks ❤